Spring Break
The touchy-feely messages of massage
Issue date: 9/27/07
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You have all have gotten away with a lot of mistaken thinking about sex, and shame on you. If just gods intervened in human affairs, they would inflict irritable bowel syndrome on anyone who dared think about sex as being just "procreation", "penetration", or any of the myriad things you small-minded mortals take it to mean.
Sexuality is not about sticking bits of you into somebody else any more than it is just about making babies. Sexual intimacy is not even just limited to things involving your genitals.
Sexual intimacy is simply about being sensual with someone else. Sometimes we touch each other to communicate love, but it's usually not as grand as that. Touching's most simple and clinical purpose is to make someone get happy, setting them at rest and helping them to feel easy.
Of course, everyone who thinks, "How can I improve my sex life?" begins by hitting up Wikipedia for new and outrageous sexual positions (honey, could we test-drive the "modified T-square" this afternoon?). They may even scout the area for ingenious locations (hm, how sturdy is the History Seminar Room table?). These are great ways to expand your sex life, but the best way to explore something new is to go back to the bedroom and do something simple - sensual massage.
This is a little different from erotic massage, which you're probably aware of - the rub-and-tug "happy ending" offered at your local massage parlor for a few tax-deductible dollars. Sensual massage is not exclusively about the genitals; it can involve any part of the body. But like the best erotic massage or the best intercourse, sensual massage is capable of making someone truly feel good 'n pleasured. What is more, it is very classy. There is as much art to it as any hand job. Indeed, sensual massage is a highly specialized art with professionals of its own. But it is also something that anyone can pick up.
What follows is a brief attempt to do a little bit of justice to this art ("summary justice," as my friend Natasha once put it) in the form of some introductory lessons to get you started.
Sexuality is not about sticking bits of you into somebody else any more than it is just about making babies. Sexual intimacy is not even just limited to things involving your genitals.
Sexual intimacy is simply about being sensual with someone else. Sometimes we touch each other to communicate love, but it's usually not as grand as that. Touching's most simple and clinical purpose is to make someone get happy, setting them at rest and helping them to feel easy.
Of course, everyone who thinks, "How can I improve my sex life?" begins by hitting up Wikipedia for new and outrageous sexual positions (honey, could we test-drive the "modified T-square" this afternoon?). They may even scout the area for ingenious locations (hm, how sturdy is the History Seminar Room table?). These are great ways to expand your sex life, but the best way to explore something new is to go back to the bedroom and do something simple - sensual massage.
This is a little different from erotic massage, which you're probably aware of - the rub-and-tug "happy ending" offered at your local massage parlor for a few tax-deductible dollars. Sensual massage is not exclusively about the genitals; it can involve any part of the body. But like the best erotic massage or the best intercourse, sensual massage is capable of making someone truly feel good 'n pleasured. What is more, it is very classy. There is as much art to it as any hand job. Indeed, sensual massage is a highly specialized art with professionals of its own. But it is also something that anyone can pick up.
What follows is a brief attempt to do a little bit of justice to this art ("summary justice," as my friend Natasha once put it) in the form of some introductory lessons to get you started.
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