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Fantasies: the good, the bad and the kinky
Orgasmic Chemistry
Issue date: 10/4/07
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Fantasies. We've all had them: most of us have been dealing with them since middle school. You're sitting in class, trying to concentrate on a questionably accurate map of Europe on the chalkboard and find yourself daydreaming about the Taylor Hanson look-alike two rows to the left.
Or you're attempting to read a chapter on phospholipid bi-layers but a scene from a Clint Eastwood western keeps replaying in your head, and the roughness of the ruffles on your imaginary dress are much better than protein placement.
Whatever the circumstance, these daydreams are potentially very debilitating but can also be quite constructive. The serious side first:
Everyone has a fantasy they're embarrassed about. Sometimes they're inappropriate in that "gross, what was I (subconsciously) thinking?" way, but some are inappropriate in that "this is completely and utterly socially unacceptable" way. These are the fantasies I encourage you to take action about: You are (probably) psychologically healthy and fine - but holding in this kind of veiled drive as well as the resulting suspicion and self-doubt is not healthy.
Obviously I'm not a doctor or a nurse or even a science major, but I am authorized to tell you our counseling center (conveniently located on the third floor of Garland hall) would love to talk to you about it. Psychologist Matthew Torres explained that while none of Hopkins counselors specialize in dream interpretation, the analysis and resulting advising about dreams and fantasies are included in typical clinical training.
If you have any troubling fantasies or dreams, please do call the counseling center and set up an appointment - it's all very discreet and professional: (410) 516-8278. There's no shame in confessing to odd sexual ideas - when I say we've all had them and probably repressed it, I mean it.
Now moving on to how to use such fantasies to your sexual advantage. This is one of the precious few occasions where I recommend being in a relationship or at least a comfortably consistent hook-up situation. A stable social interaction where both parties are relaxed enough to share sexual fantasies that are more complicated and intimate than just "Oh, I've always wanted to try girl-on-top" (Note: that's not a sexual fantasy, that's boring) is relatively essential for the episode to proceed well. That recommendation made, it's a fairly straightforward process: First you need to tell your partner the fantasy.
Or you're attempting to read a chapter on phospholipid bi-layers but a scene from a Clint Eastwood western keeps replaying in your head, and the roughness of the ruffles on your imaginary dress are much better than protein placement.
Whatever the circumstance, these daydreams are potentially very debilitating but can also be quite constructive. The serious side first:
Everyone has a fantasy they're embarrassed about. Sometimes they're inappropriate in that "gross, what was I (subconsciously) thinking?" way, but some are inappropriate in that "this is completely and utterly socially unacceptable" way. These are the fantasies I encourage you to take action about: You are (probably) psychologically healthy and fine - but holding in this kind of veiled drive as well as the resulting suspicion and self-doubt is not healthy.
Obviously I'm not a doctor or a nurse or even a science major, but I am authorized to tell you our counseling center (conveniently located on the third floor of Garland hall) would love to talk to you about it. Psychologist Matthew Torres explained that while none of Hopkins counselors specialize in dream interpretation, the analysis and resulting advising about dreams and fantasies are included in typical clinical training.
If you have any troubling fantasies or dreams, please do call the counseling center and set up an appointment - it's all very discreet and professional: (410) 516-8278. There's no shame in confessing to odd sexual ideas - when I say we've all had them and probably repressed it, I mean it.
Now moving on to how to use such fantasies to your sexual advantage. This is one of the precious few occasions where I recommend being in a relationship or at least a comfortably consistent hook-up situation. A stable social interaction where both parties are relaxed enough to share sexual fantasies that are more complicated and intimate than just "Oh, I've always wanted to try girl-on-top" (Note: that's not a sexual fantasy, that's boring) is relatively essential for the episode to proceed well. That recommendation made, it's a fairly straightforward process: First you need to tell your partner the fantasy.
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Josh
posted 10/05/07 @ 10:00 AM EST
spaghetti sauce. pencil sharpener. 4 and-a-half hand grenades. while balancing on the tip of the Louvre glass pyramid, wearing only Greek sandals. oh yeah, that gets me off big time. (Continued…)
John B
posted 10/09/07 @ 4:10 PM EST
Sarah...Didn't I tell you guys don't like snowballing?
So you had to go and do it with another guy. Serves
you right. I hope you didn't ruin another one of your dresses. (Continued…)
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