Spring Break
What women really want: the Alpha male
Guest Column
Issue date: 5/1/08
When you end a fight that's already inevitable, you have protected your friends - thus making yourself immeasurably more attractive.
If you get into the right mindset, the Alpha attitude can be applied to anything. And it is not just a list of things to remember - you have to believe it yourself.
Girls are extremely intuitive, so you can't just fake it. You have to believe you're a leader, a protector, someone who can defend in times of need - the go-to guy.
There is a subtler other side that comes with this attitude: not caring about girls. Yes, it is completely counter-intuitive. But a real leader knows that he will eventually find a suitable mate. If any particular girl rejects him, he gets over it. He knows another one will come his way.
That is not to say that he is mean to girls, he is not the "jerk," not insulting. He's nice and courteous, but he is so self-actualized that what anyone else says to him, male or female, doesn't affect him all that much.
If, say, someone were to say to you that the events of Sept. 11 were orchestrated by the U.S. government, a gut reaction might be to call him absurd, attack his ideas, his reasoning, perhaps eventually question his upbringing or insult his mother.
All of this is perfectly understandable, but a person who has real control will just dismiss it. He will say, "Oh? Is that right?" and change the topic of conversation. The lesser person simply does not matter to him.
Once the Alpha male gets the girl, the job isn't done. To keep her interested, he has to keep up the Alpha mind-set, or she'll move on.
And, yes, friends, this applies to the bedroom as well.
Girls who are attracted to the dominant types - that is to say, just about all of them - like to feel some of that dominance from her man in that most carnal of times.
Don't overdo it, though - the definition of dominant is different for every girl.
Some girls just want to be shown, maybe told, what to do. Some girls will crave a full-out backhand to the jaw.
It is essential to your relationships and your criminal record that you not confuse the two.
If you get into the right mindset, the Alpha attitude can be applied to anything. And it is not just a list of things to remember - you have to believe it yourself.
Girls are extremely intuitive, so you can't just fake it. You have to believe you're a leader, a protector, someone who can defend in times of need - the go-to guy.
There is a subtler other side that comes with this attitude: not caring about girls. Yes, it is completely counter-intuitive. But a real leader knows that he will eventually find a suitable mate. If any particular girl rejects him, he gets over it. He knows another one will come his way.
That is not to say that he is mean to girls, he is not the "jerk," not insulting. He's nice and courteous, but he is so self-actualized that what anyone else says to him, male or female, doesn't affect him all that much.
If, say, someone were to say to you that the events of Sept. 11 were orchestrated by the U.S. government, a gut reaction might be to call him absurd, attack his ideas, his reasoning, perhaps eventually question his upbringing or insult his mother.
All of this is perfectly understandable, but a person who has real control will just dismiss it. He will say, "Oh? Is that right?" and change the topic of conversation. The lesser person simply does not matter to him.
Once the Alpha male gets the girl, the job isn't done. To keep her interested, he has to keep up the Alpha mind-set, or she'll move on.
And, yes, friends, this applies to the bedroom as well.
Girls who are attracted to the dominant types - that is to say, just about all of them - like to feel some of that dominance from her man in that most carnal of times.
Don't overdo it, though - the definition of dominant is different for every girl.
Some girls just want to be shown, maybe told, what to do. Some girls will crave a full-out backhand to the jaw.
It is essential to your relationships and your criminal record that you not confuse the two.
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