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Wouldn't Hopkins be such a better place if it weren't so awkward or taboo to have sex with someone with whom you are not monogamous? This is such a small school - why would you want to alienate people, especially people who can make you cum?
Sex is an intimate thing, and to not even say hello to someone you have had sex with seems downright rude to me. Imagine, for once, if having sex with someone actually brought you closer to them (like it's supposed to), and maybe you could even become friends. Random one night stands do not necessarily make you best friends, but they should not perform the opposite function either. Just because you had sex with someone should not mean that you have to avoid them. You didn't do anything wrong, and you shouldn't regret it as long as you were safe about it.
You can't forget that there was someone else involved in this whole sex thing we're talking about. That person you kicked out of your bed this morning because you felt "ashamed" of your actions may not actually regret the sex, and you might be making them regret it by ignoring them.
By all means, I do not mean to say that you must pursue a relationship with this person, or even be monogamous, but, if the sex was good, why not have more? There's no shame in that. Men do it all the time and most don't feel badly about it, so why shouldn't women do the same? If you really loved music, you wouldn't apologize for listening to several different bands; so if you love sex, turn up the volume and tune everyone else out.
Sex is an intimate thing, and to not even say hello to someone you have had sex with seems downright rude to me. Imagine, for once, if having sex with someone actually brought you closer to them (like it's supposed to), and maybe you could even become friends. Random one night stands do not necessarily make you best friends, but they should not perform the opposite function either. Just because you had sex with someone should not mean that you have to avoid them. You didn't do anything wrong, and you shouldn't regret it as long as you were safe about it.
You can't forget that there was someone else involved in this whole sex thing we're talking about. That person you kicked out of your bed this morning because you felt "ashamed" of your actions may not actually regret the sex, and you might be making them regret it by ignoring them.
By all means, I do not mean to say that you must pursue a relationship with this person, or even be monogamous, but, if the sex was good, why not have more? There's no shame in that. Men do it all the time and most don't feel badly about it, so why shouldn't women do the same? If you really loved music, you wouldn't apologize for listening to several different bands; so if you love sex, turn up the volume and tune everyone else out.
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anon
posted 12/18/08 @ 11:42 AM EST
Hello,
I felt that I needed to comment on your article.
Let's jump right in. You argue that woman should have sex before even becoming friends with the person; however if you talk to any guy, he will say that he will have absolutely zero respect for any girl that gives it up that fast, period. (Continued…)
cbradshaw
posted 12/20/08 @ 1:03 AM EST
wow, ok so the author of this article, in their head, obviously thinks they are being extremely original, groundbreaking, and a torch bearer for all of womankind. (Continued…)
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