Learn how to get what you want and get away with it
At first glance, the title of this column might sound like I'm some douche bag male trying to get into some girl's pants. Wrong on both accounts. On the contrary, this column focuses on the one thing that is most difficult to maintain while "getting what you want": dignity.
I think I can speak for humankind when I say that sex is good. Nobody dislikes sex: it feels good, it's fun, it's aerobic, and it's (hopefully) with someone you don't mind being around. The issue is: What if you don't mind being around more than one person?
My dear peers (and teachers, if you're reading this), I have somewhat of a revolutionary announcement: There is nothing wrong with having sex with more than one person, as long as you have come to terms with that fact.
It is not a crime to like sex. In fact, I think it's a great thing. And, until you meet that special someone who you want to be around more than just the occasional hook up and hello, then by all means, have your fun, because you have needs and just because you don't have a boyfriend does not mean that you cannot be having sex.
Having sex out of a relationship is something that is highly frowned upon by a scowling segment of society, but that does not mean that everyone thinks badly of you. If you're one of the lucky ladies who manages to jump between beds without being held back by that nasty sense of shame, I can guarantee you that a hundred other women wish they were doing exactly what you're doing, but are too chicken or too worried about what people are going to think of it.
Almost everyone has had an awkward (occasionally alcohol-induced) one-night stand, and has felt bad or ashamed of it the next morning.
There is no need to feel guilty; in fact, you should feel good about yourself. You just got (at least I hope you got) what every human intrinsically wants: an orgasm. If you really feel bad about it, look back at the ancient Greeks and even Confucius, who all say that sex is a wonderful and healthy thing for the mind and body. And if it was good, why not do it again? Who says that it has to be awkward the next day when you pass last night's catch on the way to class? You are allowed to say hello, and you are allowed to introduce the idea of a repeat performance, especially if it was really good. Why pass that up? Good sex is hard to find.
I think I can speak for humankind when I say that sex is good. Nobody dislikes sex: it feels good, it's fun, it's aerobic, and it's (hopefully) with someone you don't mind being around. The issue is: What if you don't mind being around more than one person?
My dear peers (and teachers, if you're reading this), I have somewhat of a revolutionary announcement: There is nothing wrong with having sex with more than one person, as long as you have come to terms with that fact.
It is not a crime to like sex. In fact, I think it's a great thing. And, until you meet that special someone who you want to be around more than just the occasional hook up and hello, then by all means, have your fun, because you have needs and just because you don't have a boyfriend does not mean that you cannot be having sex.
Having sex out of a relationship is something that is highly frowned upon by a scowling segment of society, but that does not mean that everyone thinks badly of you. If you're one of the lucky ladies who manages to jump between beds without being held back by that nasty sense of shame, I can guarantee you that a hundred other women wish they were doing exactly what you're doing, but are too chicken or too worried about what people are going to think of it.
Almost everyone has had an awkward (occasionally alcohol-induced) one-night stand, and has felt bad or ashamed of it the next morning.
There is no need to feel guilty; in fact, you should feel good about yourself. You just got (at least I hope you got) what every human intrinsically wants: an orgasm. If you really feel bad about it, look back at the ancient Greeks and even Confucius, who all say that sex is a wonderful and healthy thing for the mind and body. And if it was good, why not do it again? Who says that it has to be awkward the next day when you pass last night's catch on the way to class? You are allowed to say hello, and you are allowed to introduce the idea of a repeat performance, especially if it was really good. Why pass that up? Good sex is hard to find.
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anon
posted 12/18/08 @ 11:42 AM EST
Hello,
I felt that I needed to comment on your article.
Let's jump right in. You argue that woman should have sex before even becoming friends with the person; however if you talk to any guy, he will say that he will have absolutely zero respect for any girl that gives it up that fast, period. (Continued…)
cbradshaw
posted 12/20/08 @ 1:03 AM EST
wow, ok so the author of this article, in their head, obviously thinks they are being extremely original, groundbreaking, and a torch bearer for all of womankind. (Continued…)
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